The Bondage of Self and the Baptist Preacher’s Daughter – Martha W.

About This Speaker Tape

A bowl of pills and a bottle of 1.75 liter vodka on a Sunday afternoon. Martha W. woke up in her own filth, unable to breathe, forced to consciously command her lungs to work. For the daughter of a Florida Baptist convention head, the wreckage was deep: a childhood defined by the guilt of nearly killing her mother during birth, a brutal rape at age eleven, and thirty years of drinking to escape a world where she believed a Higher Power hated her. She spent decades as a "low-bottom drunk," parking her ugly car in front of the bar just to spite her parents.

Recovery didn't happen overnight. It took a list of phone numbers found in a junk room and a series of "smart aleck" attempts at spirituality—including praying to a fictional entity named Harold. Through the guidance of sponsors and the grit of a fourth step, Martha faced the bondage of self. She tore up a child support judgment to clear the air with her ex-husband and eventually found peace with a father who admitted it took a bu...

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• 0:00 Martha W. opens with the joy of sobriety and her background as a preacher's kid.
• 3:15 Recounts childhood trauma and the belief that her Higher Power hated her.
• 7:40 Discusses the 'bondage of self' and using alcohol to feel different and accepted.
• 11:20 Describes her first encounter with AA and the 'fellowship' trap of just hanging out without a program.
• 15:10 Detailed account of her suicide attempt and the subsequent 'AA miracle' of the phone numbers.
• 21:00 Discusses her time in treatment at Willingway and the 12 and 12.
• 26:30 Laughter: The story of 'Harold' as a placeholder Higher Power.
• 31:10 The experience of the Third Step Prayer and the 'electricity' in the room.
• 35:00 Working the Fourth Step and the realization that she was the common denominator in her problems.
• 39:20 The process of the Fifth Step and the relief of sharing her character defects.
• 43:00 Making amends: Tearing up the child support judgment and paying back stolen money with interest.
• 50:00 Closing thoughts on the importance of sponsorship and the final reconciliation with her father.