Step 4 and the Resentment List in Column 2 – Bob D.
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Las Vegas, August heat, and a car with broken windows and a headlight taped over with aluminum foil. Bob D. describes a life once defined by seven years of relapsing and a "rotisserie" ego that keeps him awake at night. He warns against the "self-serving minimalist," the man who does the bare minimum to avoid inconvenience, noting that the only way out of the bondage of self is to become a "doer."
Bob focuses on the grit of the Fourth Step, urging sponsees to imagine the person they hate is writing their own inventory. He asks: what would that person put in Column 2? This shift in perspective is where the ego is notched down. For Bob, the measure of suffering is the gap between grabbing onto a resentment and finally letting go. He views sobriety not as a Hallmark card, but as a process of "repenting"—literally rethinking—until he can stop directing the show and finally get the joke.
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