Step 10 and the Game of Who Stays Least Disturbed — Sandy B.

About This Speaker Tape

(Tampa, FL) 'Sierra R.'; Milibu, CA; 20090417 Sandy B. Sierra R. Malibu CA 2009 04 17 - 2009

Sandy B. dismantles the alcoholic's obsession with control, arguing that disturbance is a failure of perception rather than a result of external events. He maps out a spiritual physics where problems aren't solved through analysis, but are removed through a shift in perspective and the surrender of the ego. Using the metaphor of the prodigal son, Sandy traces the journey from the delusion of self-sufficiency—taught to him by a father who insisted he make something of himself—to the humility of being a 'part of something' rather than 'something.' He describes the transition from a rigid Marine captain's identity to the simple, grounding service of making coffee, illustrating how the death of the ego identity allows a person to finally move from the bridge of reason to the shore of faith.

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Timestamps

• 0:00 Sandy opens with the powerful premise that if we are disturbed, something is wrong with us—specifically our perception.
• 3:15 Discussion on the 10th Step and the 'World of the Spirit' where problems evaporate rather than being solved.
• 7:40 Sandy describes the 'new game' of staying undisturbed to unlock creativity and intuition.
• 11:20 The Prodigal Son metaphor: Sandy reflects on his father's push for self-sufficiency and the 'false plan' for happiness.
• 15:45 The 'Entitlement Resume' and how humility transforms the perception of one's talents.
• 19:10 Laughter: The 'spiritual experiment' and the four zeros of a resistant newcomer.
• 23:50 Sandy discusses the 'bridge of reason to faith' and the decision to fully commit to AA.
• 27:10 Analysis of the 7th Step and the turning point of wanting humility rather than needing it.
• 31:00 Contemplative AA: The idea of abandoning hope for the future to find Higher Power in the present moment.
• 35:40 The 'Big Bang' answer to all 'why' questions and the mystery of the universe.
• 38:20 Story about the Dumfries Triangle Group and the humility of becoming the coffee maker.
• 42:15 Laughter: The story of the drunk speaker resigning from AA and the jockey's rebuttal.