Sandy B. – Don P. “Precisely How We Recovered” AA Speaker 12 Step “Alcoholism Recovery” Don P Precisely How We Recovered 12 Step Alcoholism Recovery – Part 8 – 2013

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Don P. "Precisely How We R." AA Speaker 12 Step "Alcoholism Recovery" Don P Precisely How We R. 12 Step Alcoholism Recovery - 2013

Sandy B. maps out the surgical nature of the fear and resentment inventories, treating them as tools to dismantle the 'screwy thinking' that keeps a person isolated. He traces his path from a prison cell—where he worked through the first few steps with a fellow inmate named Jim—to a life of 'proportion' and sanity. Sandy cuts through the noise of self-will, using concrete examples like a dispute over a parking spot at Dario's in Denver and the humbling experience of paying back a drugstore owner for a dollar-and-a-half worth of Christmas tree lights. He argues that the goal of the steps isn't just to get clean, but to fit oneself to be of maximum service, moving from a state of 'killer rage' and 'raw terror' to a place where he can simply be a listener for others.

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• 0:00 Sandy begins by discussing the technical side of the resentment and fear inventories.
• 2:15 Discussion of the fear inventory and the specific fear of being without money.
• 5:30 A spiritual awakening regarding the difference between 'what I do' and 'who I am'.
• 8:45 Laughter: The story of the 'Higher Power of parking spots' and the trip to Dario's in Denver.
• 12:10 Sandy defines love as 'active concern for the growth and welfare' of others.
• 16:40 Step 4: Sandy discusses the 'conduct inventory' and the objective approach to the sex inventory.
• 21:15 The 'three questions' for navigating human relationships and personal agendas.
• 26:30 A practical example of asking for direction regarding weight loss and cabbage soup.
• 30:15 The story of meeting his wife, Jackie, through a series of intuitive prompts and a sponsored friend.
• 34:50 Defining insanity as a 'lack of proportion' and the memory of the leopard skin seat covers.
• 38:20 Step 5: The experience of stopping being alone while sharing his inventory with Jim in prison.
• 44:10 Step 8 and 9: The process of making amends for the Christmas tree lights and the importance of listening to the victim.