Acceptance Was the Answer — Reading Page 417 Until It Stopped Being Just Words – Brian B.

About This Speaker Tape

Brian B. shares a powerful story of long-term sobriety, relapse, and return to AA. He first got sober in the late 1980s as a teenager after his parents caught him with a garbage bag full of evidence from a house party. He connected immediately with the fellowship, threw himself into service work organizing dances and talent shows, and stayed sober for roughly 25 years. But he had drifted from meetings, his marriage was failing, he was on antidepressants, and one night while working in grocery retail — where he was in charge of beer and wine purchases — he simply decided he was "tired of this sobriety thing" and needed a break. He had picked up a 25-year chip just two weeks before.

The relapse was swift and devastating. He stole alcohol from work, hid bottles under old paint rollers in the garage, drank daily at work and on the drive home. After getting caught, he picked up a white chip but immediately drank a fifth of vodka in front of his son and had to leave the house. He cycled through two more relapses of about a year and a half each, never fully honest with sponsors, jumping into relationships at 90 days, ignoring all the suggestions he had heard for decades.

His last drink came at the point of suicidal ideation — broke, every bad check written, nothing left to eat or drink. He looked up methods and decided the odds of success were poor enough that he might as well call the one friend still reaching out. That friend somehow connected him with the person he trusted most at the Fifth Tradition Group, who became his sponsor. This time Brian surrendered completely, admitting he knew nothing. His sponsor took him through the Big Book word by word, and after his fifth step he had a spiritual experience where the whole world looked different — like someone had turned up the dimmer switch.

Brian describes years of painstaking financial amends — calling loss prevention departments at companies he stole from, paying off bad checks, back child support, and outstanding loans. He rebuilt his relationship with his estranged son by calling every single week and leaving a message until the kid called back. He talks about the daily practice that sustains him now: morning meditation, nightly inventory, and a simple question when his mind races — "Is there anything I can do about this right now?" He references Sandy B.'s talk on letting go and the page 417 passage on acceptance, and closes by emphasizing that the steps actually work when you stop pretending you already know what is in the book.

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• 0:00 Lisa introduces the Monday Night Blue Chip Speakers meeting at the NABBA Club and welcomes Brian B.
• 3:30 Brian describes his first drinking as a teenager — vodka, dark beer, blackouts, and knowing something was wrong
• 8:00 Parents come home early and find the garbage bag — ultimatum to get help or move out, first AA meetings in the late 80s
• 12:00 Early sobriety service work — organizing AA dances at the Dorville Rec Center, talent shows, being group secretary
• 17:00 Drifting away after 10-12 years sober — marriage, kid, career took priority over meetings
• 22:00 Relapse after 25 years — managing beer and wine at the grocery store, hiding and stealing alcohol, drinking daily at work
• 30:00 Multiple relapses of 18 months each, suicidal ideation, the phone call that saved his life
• 37:00 Working the steps differently this time — sponsor took him page by page, spiritual experience after the fifth step
• 44:00 Financial amends — bad checks, loss prevention calls, back child support, IRS debt still in process
• 52:00 Daily practice of Step 11 — morning meditation, nightly inventory, Sandy B. talk on letting go, the question 'Is there anything I can do about this right now?'