There Is a Solution – Part 5 – Sandy B. – 2004

About This Speaker Tape

The speaker guides listeners away from chasing 'happiness' toward finding peace by accepting 'what is.' They argue that the ego's core business is separation—making 'me' different from 'you.' True spiritual movement means becoming 'lovers of reality' and finding peace in the present moment. A key discussion centers on the Sixth Step's 'riddle of our existence,' suggesting that perfection is unattainable, which is actually a grace. The advice pivots to self-compassion, urging listeners to be gentle in their self-examination, and finally, reframes 'fairness' as a one-way street: the speaker must only be fair to themselves.

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Timestamps

• 0:00 Discussion on acceptance: 'It just is the way it is. It isn't personal. It's just the way it is.'
• 0:25 The speaker discusses the ego as the 'separator,' making 'me over here' and 'you over here.'
• 1:45 Discussion on the Serenity Prayer, noting that 'there are things you accept and then there are things that you change.'
• 3:00 The speaker addresses the Sixth Step, calling it the 'riddle of our existence.'
• 3:45 The speaker discusses the impossibility of removing *all* character defects, citing Bill W.'s explanation.
• 4:40 The speaker emphasizes the need for compassion: 'You have to be able to be gentle in the examination of your life.'
• 5:20 The speaker introduces the concept of 'Fairness is a one-way street.' (No specific Step/Tradition mentioned)