The Wall She Built to Keep People Out Also Kept Her In – Eve M.

About This Speaker Tape

Vassar College, 1924. Eve M. stands out as the only freshman without silk underwear, a detail that cemented her status as an outcast. She spent decades as an empty vessel, using alcohol to cope with a "soul sickness" and a desperate need for approval. She describes the drink as a tool that made her feel whole, masking a deep sense of inadequacy and a "bloated nothingness" of ego.

Eve distinguishes between the "water wagon"—simply staying away from a drink while fighting it every step—and the AA process of growing away from the need. She recounts the wreckage of her home life, including the devastating realization that her daughter remembered a violent fight between her parents. Through the fourth step and the support of a Higher Power, she dismantled the walls she built to keep others out, discovering she was neither marvelous nor awful, but average. She views sobriety not as a diploma, but as a lifelong process of changing one's attitude.

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Timestamps

• 0:45 Eve M. discusses the definition of 'elderly' and her enthusiasm for the fellowship.
• 3:15 Sobriety date: January 6, 1945.
• 6:20 The 'water wagon' vs. growing away from the drink.
• 10:15 Discussion of the Fourth Step and 'soul sickness'.
• 14:30 Childhood feelings of inadequacy: the Vassar silk underwear story.
• 18:45 The 'frying pan' memory and the impact of alcoholism on the family.
• 24:10 The 'pony in the manure' story.
• 28:30 Reflections on the Third Step and finding a Higher Power.
• 31:15 The Fourth Step as an adventure and the 'yellow fool's cap' inventory.