The Losing Plan for Living – Sandy B.

About This Speaker Tape

East Coast Convention - 1994

A sponsor who literally filled the doorframe anchors a thirty-year friendship for Sandy B., measured by the distance between the door and the table. He recounts the wreckage of the 'nut ward,' smuggling vodka into the parking lot and clinging to a 'losing plan' for living that he admits was simply stupid. Sandy dismantles the intellectual approach to sobriety arguing that the only way out is to stop trying to solve the problem and instead surrender to a spiritual process. He describes the transformation not as adding something new but as a sculpting process—scraping away the character defects and the 'crap' stuck to the soul to reveal the magnificent person already underneath. He contrasts the alcoholic's faith in vodka as a universal solution with the spiritual solution found in the 12 Steps emphasizing that the real self is found in the quiet instinctive rooting for a newcomer in a meeting.

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• 0:00 Sandy B. opens by discussing the importance of supporting recovery homes like Robinson House.
• 2:15 Recounts smuggling vodka into the 'nut ward' and the threat to his Marine Corps career.
• 5:30 The 12-step call: Bill arrives and tells him, 'I talk, you listen.'
• 8:45 Laughter: Discussion on the 'disguise' of calling the program a suggestion.
• 12:10 The 'wristband' story: A newcomer calls out Sandy's institutionalized appearance.
• 16:40 Dismantles the 'intellectual approach' to life and the 'stupidity' of sticking to a failing plan.
• 21:15 Comparison between his relationship with alcohol and his friend Roy's casual relationship with it.
• 26:30 Explains the nature of powerlessness and the danger of the 'first drink' while sober.
• 31:00 The 'marble statue' metaphor: Sobriety as a process of subtraction and removal.
• 35:20 Describes the instinctive, heart-racing connection felt when seeing a struggling newcomer in a meeting.