The Controlled Drinking Rule That Only Applied on Airplanes – Marilyn S.

About This Speaker Tape

A refrigerator full of beer in a science lab. That was the sanctuary where Marilyn S. hid from a world she couldn't navigate, trading a career in biochemistry for a slow fade into the garage. She describes herself as a "tick on a dog," attaching to people and sucking them dry in a desperate, sick dependency. For years, she lived in the illusion that controlled drinking worked—a lie that nearly killed her and left her as a "mangy animal" of a mother, drifting through blackouts while her family worked around her like she was a broken machine.

Recovery began when she stopped praying to science and started screaming "help me" to a Higher Power. Through the guidance of her sponsor, Marian, she learned the basic mechanics of being human, practicing simple greetings in a mirror. By trading her self-obsession for the discipline of the fellowship, she moved from the garage back into the light.

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• 0:00 Marilyn S. opens with the beauty of Yosemite and her 30+ years of sobriety.
• 4:30 The 'airplane rule' and the illusion of controlled drinking.
• 8:15 Laughter: The three kinds of prayer: 'Help me, give me, and use me'.
• 11:40 The 12th Step worker, Lorena, and the request for a 'dark, quiet intellectual meeting'.
• 16:20 Meeting her sponsor, Marion W., and the 'gift of willingness' to attend the Pacific Group.
• 20:10 Learning the social 'vocabulary' of normal people and the 'Fine, how are you?' exercise.
• 25:40 The 'cotton ball with scotch' remedy at age eight and early blackouts.
• 31:10 The 'tick on a dog' metaphor for her early marriage and dependency.
• 35:20 Drinking in the lab refrigerator and the end of her scientific career.
• 39:40 The garage years and the fear of the radio broadcast about women alcoholics.
• 44:10 Working the 4th Step and the 'searching and fearless moral inventory' of her mother-in-law.
• 52:10 Belaying her son on a rock climb in Yosemite as a symbol of recovery.