Tenth Step Done Right Is Steps 4, 5, 7, 9, and 12 Rolled Into One Night – Milt L.

They missed that decade like hell, didn't they?
Okay?
Watch this.
We ready?
To answer all questions, to sum up step 9, to answer all questions on page 76,
the end of the second last paragraph, it says this.
Remember, it was agreed at the very beginning, you would go to any lengths for victory over alcohol.
Not my decision.
If you caught yourself in that agreement, blame yourself.
I didn't get you into it.
Okay, 9 is done.
Let's go to 10.
Let's go to 10.
Page.
What?
Okay, let's go to 9.
82.
82.
Second paragraph down.
Third paragraph down.
If, you with me?
If.
Let's go to the next sentence.
Sometimes.
You with me?
Sometimes.
Sometimes we hear an alcoholic say that the only thing he needs to do is keep sober.
Certainly he must keep sober for there will be no home if he doesn't,
yet he is a long way from making good wife, parents for whom he is so shockingly treated.
Passing all understanding.
Mothers, wives, alcoholics.
This has not been so.
Many of us would have no home.
And possibly we'd be dead today if it wasn't for my wives or mothers and friends who took care of us.
Listen to this.
Listen to this.
83.
Top of the page.
There is a long period of reconstruction ahead.
We must take the lead.
Our remorseful mumbling that we are sorry will not fill the bill.
Here is what we ought to do.
This is still step 9.
We ought to sit down with the family.
If you have a family, if you have friends, if you live in a half way house or sober living or whatever term they come up with now.
We ought to sit down with the family and carefully analyze the past as we now see it.
Being careful not to criticize them.
Their defects may be glaring.
Their defects may be glaring.
But the chances are that our own actions are partly responsible.
So we clean house with the family.
Does that include brother-in-laws?
Each more so we clean house with the family.
Each morning in meditation.
We ask each morning in meditation that our Creator show us the way of patience, tolerance, kindness and love.
Now are we doing something about those defects that we talked about?
What if they pop up?
Do I?
Does it mean I'm taking it back?
What should I do?
Here is what we should do.
Each morning in meditation we ask our Creator to give us patience, tolerance, kindness and love.
The spiritual life is not a theory.
We are now in a spiritual life.
It doesn't matter if you feel spiritual.
You have followed the directions.
You are living a spiritual life.
Okay?
We have to live it.
All right?
Any questions on that?
Okay.
There may be some wrongs we cannot fully write.
Next paragraph down.
We don't worry about them if we can honestly say to ourselves we would write them if we could.
Anybody got any examples of that?
Huh?
What?
That's my girl.
That is my girl.
I want to make amends to my dad.
I'm going to go to the cemetery and I'm going to write a letter and I'm going to put down.
I'm not saying don't do that.
All I'm saying is this.
If he were alive, would you straighten it out?
Yes.
Then you're, as far as this book is done, you're done with it.
If it makes you feel better to put flowers or write a letter, sing a song, I don't care.
As long as you'd be willing to straighten it out.
Okay?
Some people cannot be seen.
This was an answer to one of the questions.
We send them an honest letter.
There may be a valid reason for postponing in some cases.
But we do not delay if it can be avoided.
These are what?
The foundations.
These are the foundations that we're going to follow forever.
Okay?
We do not delay if it can be avoided.
It will be sensible, tactful, considerate.
This is us now.
This is us.
We should be sensible, tactful, considerate, and humble without being servile or scraping.
More people concentrate on servile and scraping than they do on sensible, tactful, considerate.
Okay?
But that's not my business.
As God's people, we stand on our feet.
We don't crawl.
If we've been painstaking about this recovery, and then they give you a bunch of little promises,
and it's all so nice, and they said it might come true, and it will, and if we work for
it, and all of that, and all of that's good.
We love the promises, don't we?
We read them at every meeting to where they're boring and insignificant.
So here we go now with step 10.
The thought brings us to step 10.
Now, what we have done is we've done it.
We've done it.
We've done it.
We've done it.
We've done it.
We've done it.
We've done it.
We've done it.
We've done it.
We've done it.
We've done it to where they're boring and insignificant.
So here we go now with step 10ed, the thought brings us to step 10 ..
Now what we have done is we have done everything that we've talked about.
We've done all this writing.
We've done this fifth step.
We've become willing.
We've done this.
We've made amends.
We're making amends.
We're doing all of these things.
We continue to take the inventory and continue to sight set right any new mistakes as we
go along.
We vigorously commence this way of living.
. . .
As we cleaned up the past.
And that means we are going to do 10 and 11 and 12, this spiritual way of living, as we are doing 9.
9 is not a stopping point.
9 is nothing more than I'm going to make amends, start making your amends.
And that night, that night, you pick up your book and do 10 and 11 and 12.
Are you with me on that?
Okay.
We have entered the world of the Spirit.
Our function, next function, is to grow in understanding and effectiveness.
Up until this point, I have told you, and as the book has told you, just follow the directions.
Now you're going to get understanding of what the hell you've done.
Now you're going to get to be effective in giving this away.
Okay?
This is not an overnight matter.
It should continue for a lifetime.
That means what we are about to do now, we are going to continue for a lifetime.
We are going to continue to watch for selfishness, deceitfulness.
dishonesty, resentment, and fear.
Are you with me on that?
This is going to be our job for the rest of our life.
Every day I'm going to wake up and I am going to read this.
I am going to read that this is my job.
I am going to continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear.
When these crop up, these are your directions.
This is you now putting your actions into play here, your work.
When these crop up, I'm going to...
I'm going to ask God at once to remove them.
Not if they crop up.
I solemnly assure you that they are going to crop up.
I'm going to ask God at once to remove them.
We're going to discuss them with someone immediately
and make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone.
Those are our directions for this day.
Then we are going to resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.
Love and tolerance of others is our code.
And that, my friends, is the first time love has been brought into this picture.
Because now we have patience, tolerance, pity.
We have save me from being angry.
How can I be useful?
The result is love.
We are now at this point in our life.
And here's some more directions that are equally important.
And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone.
And that means if you have gotten into an argument or a pissing contest with anyone...
Not what this step says, is it?
This is what we're supposed to keep on guard for.
Okay, now let's back it up.
Let's back it up.
We're going to continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear.
Remember what I said about procedures earlier.
We are going to establish procedures in these steps
that we are going to use for the rest of our lives.
Where have we learned to identify selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear?
Step four.
We are doing step four.
On a daily basis, when we do step ten.
You with me?
When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them.
Where have we learned to ask God to remove our defects?
Step seven.
So if we do this on a daily basis, we are doing step four and step seven.
We discuss them with someone immediately.
Where have we learned to discuss?
Five.
So we are doing four, five, and seven on a daily basis.
If we do step ten.
And all we are doing is the procedures.
See, we learn the procedures.
We don't have to write all this stuff down.
Oh, oh, I got a resentment. Let me write it down.
Let me do the columns.
Wait, was it the columns or was it the reviews?
Wait, was it the reviews or was it the columns?
No, we have already got this down, ain't we?
They are telling us exactly what to do.
Make amends quickly.
Where have we learned to do that?
Nine.
So we are doing four, five, seven, and nine on a daily basis.
Nine.
So we are doing four, five, seven, and nine on a daily basis.
If we do step ten, all the procedures we learned.
Then we resultantly turn our thoughts to the sun and we can help.
Then we resultantly turn our thoughts to the sun and we can help.
Twelve.
Twelve.
Which is what we are going to do right now.
Right?
Love and tolerance of others is our code.
What is our code?
Love and tolerance of others.
What is so difficult about that?
Do you know how mad this guy makes me?
Do you know how he sticks in my throat?
I hate that shirt like you do.
I just can't believe.
I just can't believe.
Are you with me on that?
Are you with me on that?
Have you shared this emotion with me?
Have you shared this emotion with me?
Absolutely. Look at that ugly shirt.
Who could blame me for being mad, right?
Who could blame me for not liking this guy?
Who could blame me for not liking this guy?
But what is my job with this guy?
But what is my job with this guy?
Love and tolerance.
If that is the shirt you want to wear, that is just fine.
I really, really care about you.
I hate your shirt.
I didn't say it.
I ain't from California.
I didn't say it.
I didn't say it.
I didn't say it.
But love and tolerance of him
is my code that I'm going to live by.
Got that? Make sense?
Okay.
Yes?
Your role as a sponsor
is mine as a process.
How far into nine do you like me to be
before they go to ten?
No, no, no. Let me say it again.
Let me say it again. Let me read it to you again.
This is it.
We vigorously
commenced this way of living
ten, eleven, and twelve
as we cleaned up the past.
If I start step nine
right now, right now,
today, I'm going to make amends.
First I'm going to make amends to this guy for talking about his ugly shirt.
Then I'm going to come over here and say I'm going to make amends
because I'm a sober member of Alcoholics Anonymous
by Spiritual Principles.
Two of these principles are
amends and restitution.
If I want to stay sober, I have to do these things.
I'm truly sorry for what I said.
I shouldn't have done that.
Tonight,
when I kneel down, I'm going to do ten.
I'm going to do eleven.
Okay?
You got that?
It is one fell swoop. There is no pause.
We are now living this and doing this.
Yes?
I have a question.
How does that sound to you?
What do you mean you don't know?
Of course you know. That's why you're asking the question.
How does it sound to you? Does it sound right to you?
Sound good to you?
Okay, if it doesn't sound good to you,
then watch this. Don't do it.
Don't do it.
What's that?
Well, that's right.
Now you can say to yourself,
I understand
what my mother is going through
because she's probably sponsoring some jerk
just like me.
And I will not do that to the guys
that I sponsor.
And when you do do that, you're going to say,
God, I'm just like my mother.
A human being.
I have no idea
that we're looking for perfection.
All we're looking is for progress.
Are there guys that I wouldn't sponsor?
Are there guys I will not let in my home?
Yes.
Are there guys I won't help? No.
Are there guys
that will not let in my home?
Why?
Because I've done shit to my home
that is absolutely incredible.
Have I whooped them for it?
No.
Will I let them in my home? No.
Will I help them with the steps?
Yes.
Yes.
I don't owe you my kids.
I don't owe you my home
and I don't owe you my job.
Does that make sense to you?
That's all.
I could tell you stories you wouldn't even believe.
Go ahead.
I would help this guy
because my staying sober
depends on helping other people.
Yeah.
My staying sober
depends on my service
to you and God.
Okay?
Alright.
We're not there yet.
Okay?
You with me?
Let's go to the next page.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
Let's go down to the bottom of 84.
Because we've already given you 12 promises.
We've already given you 12 promises.
We're going to give you something now
that I think is far superior
to the 12 promises, okay?
And that is this.
And this is at step 10.
We have ceased fighting anything or anyone
even alcohol.
And if you have worked these steps up until step 10
here's what you got.
For by this time sanity will have returned.
If you have worked up to step 10
you are doing 10, 11, and 12 at the same time.
You with me?
And if you are doing 10, 11, and 12
sanity will have returned.
We will seldom be interested in liquor.
If tempted we'll recoil from it
like a hot flame.
And I'll tell you I like that crap.
I like that from the bottom of my heart
because I'm a drunk.
We react sanely and normally.
We find this happens automatically.
We will see that our new attitude
toward liquor has been given us
without any effort on our thought
or effort on our part.
That we're not dealing with drinking
and not drinking.
We're dealing with letting God be God
and we're going to be His servant.
We're dealing with serving Him and our fellow man.
And then we stay sober automatically.
Then that happens.
Just by us becoming servants to God
and our fellow man.
We will see that our new attitude toward liquor
has been given us without any thought
or effort on our part.
It just comes.
This my friends is the miracle of it.
We're not fighting alcohol
and we're not dying to stay sober.
We're trying to stop playing God
and serve our fellow man
and then
and then we get the miracle.
It just happens.
That's the miracle.
We're not fighting it.
Neither are we avoiding temptation.
We feel as though we've been placed
in a position of neutrality.
We're not playing God.
That's from that third step.
That's from finding our peace and happiness
our joy, our service
into our fellow man.
Okay?
We're not sworn off.
Instead the problem has been removed.
Drunkenness has been removed.
We're neither cocky nor are we afraid.
Our experience.
This is we act so long as we keep.
Now here's the kicker.
All of this that I just read you
all of this miracle
I promise
we will keep
this will happen
so long as we keep
in fit spiritual condition.
And that doesn't mean godly.
That doesn't mean holy.
What that means is
that we are going to take these principles
that we have incorporated into our life
and use them
one day at a time.
Here's some more directions.
It's easy to let up on a spiritual program of action
and rest on our laurels.
If we do.
For alcohol is a subtle foe.
Remember this.
Everyone here.
We are not cured of alcoholism.
We are not cured of alcoholism.
What we have is a daily reprieve
continued on the maintenance
of our spiritual condition.
Have you got that?
What we have is a daily reprieve
on the maintenance of our spiritual condition.
Where have we gotten a spiritual condition?
These steps.
These steps we have got.
That's right.
I like it. That's even better.
That's where we have gotten our spiritual condition.
And now here.
Listen to this.
Every day.
I'm not sure this is the direction
as much as it is an order.
Every day is a day
when we must
carry the vision of God's will
into all of our activities.
How can I best serve Thee
Thy will
so that mine be done?
What step?
Right back to where we began,
isn't it?
It's all here.
So if we do a tenth step on a daily basis,
we do three, five,
seven, nine, and twelve.
You got that?
There it is. There it is.
It says this.
These thoughts must go with us constantly.
This is our job now,
isn't it?
These thoughts that we're having,
we got to keep in our head.
How do we do this?
Well, we exercise our willpower
along the line all we want.
It's the proper use of the will.
That's how we do this.
We now take this will that we have,
our motives and our intentions
that are higher and greater than ever before,
and we say to ourselves,
I'm going to do this.
Proper use of the will.
Not often referred to as
the will of God.
Okay.
Let's take that off the tape.
Why do I put that down?
Okay.
That's ten.
What, dear?
See where you were.
Oh, okay.
Where we are is on page 86.
No.
We're on 86.
Now.
Second paragraph.
When we retire at night.
Any questions?
About when we do this?
We do that in the game
if we're working graveyard, right?
Whenever you retire.
Whenever your night is.
I work graveyard.
I work graveyard.
So when I retire at night,
I do this.
Okay?
Here's what we do.
We constructively review our day.
When we,
before we go to bed,
we constructively review our day.
Anybody at the beach meeting on Thursday?
One.
The girl said I got a problem,
and the problem is
that when I go to bed at night,
I think about drugs and how many
speedball eight balls I got to put in
to get to some kind of,
I don't know, plateau or something,
kilo.
And I just want to shut my brain off
and it won't go off.
Has anybody got this problem?
And not one, not one out of twenty people
got up and said,
well it says here, review your day
instead of worrying about your eight balls.
We don't want to shut our brain off.
We want to use our brain.
We want to use our brain.
We want our brain to constructively
review our day.
We want to ask ourselves some questions.
Was I sinful?
Was I selfish?
Was I dishonest?
Or was I afraid?
Where have we learned to identify this?
The procedures we got out of four.
Do we owe an apology?
Where have we learned to do this?
That's the procedures we've got
in previous steps.
Have we kept something to ourselves
which should be discussed with another?
These are questions you see.
Your answer is your answer.
I'm going to lay down at night.
I'm going to kneel down at night.
I'm going to sit on a crapper at night.
I don't care where you do this.
Position is not as
as important as technique.
Here's the technique.
Here's the technique.
I'm going to ask myself,
was I resentful today?
It's got to be a yes or a no.
Yes or no?
Was I selfish today?
It's yes or no.
Was I dishonest today?
It's yes or no.
This is not an hour long procedure.
I've heard people say,
my sponsor says I insist
I write my 11 steps.
If that's true,
show me that in the book
and I'll say then the book says so.
If it's not that in the book,
then it's another one of them programs.
It's another one of them thousand and one ways
to be sober.
We're only going to do it this way.
Have I kept something to myself
that should be discussed
with another person at once?
What's the answer?
Yes or no.
That's all it is.
It's yes or no.
Were we kind and loving towards all?
Who knows this?
You do.
Will more be revealed to you
as you go along in the spiritual life?
Yes.
Unkind tomorrow.
But that's all we're looking at is today, ain't it?
I'm sorry I'm not going to do this
until I'm sober a year
so that way I'll be more honest.
Where's this shit come from?
What could we have done better?
Now this is a question
that requires an answer.
I could have got the guy
a cup of coffee.
I could have been more honest.
I could have been a look at his pain
instead of my pride.
Okay?
Were we thinking ourselves
most of the time?
Yes or no.
Were we thinking of what we could do for others?
Yes or no.
Of what we could pack into this stream of life?
Yes or no.
But we must be careful not to drift into worry,
remorse, or morbid reflection.
I think that it's something to do with estrogen
but I'm not sure.
That would diminish our usefulness to others.
Now they're not talking about morbid reflection
because it'll make us sad
and unhappy.
They're talking about morbid reflection
because it'll reduce our usefulness
to others.
Our whole purpose and idea
is to serve others.
We're just re-emphasizing that.
After making our review
we ask God's forgiveness.
God forgive me for being dishonest
but I wasn't selfish.
God forgive me for being resentful
but I wasn't the other thing.
So that's all we're doing
is just asking that. God forgive me.
And then, God what should I do?
What should I do?
Take them bagels to work tomorrow.
I can do that.
I can do that. Thank you.
Then you go to bed.
What if you want to pray more?
Pray more.
Do this. This is foundation work.
Do this.
Where do you pray?
On my knees.
You're damn right.
That's one technique and position.
Alright.
Go to page 85.
Bottom of the paragraph.
Step 11.
Isn't that what that says?
Step 10
is almost, almost
and I mean this
almost entirely
an expression of our desire
to serve
our fellow man in God.
Almost entirely.
Not the facts
and faith coming together.
We're putting them together here,
ain't we?
And we're dependent and relying an awful lot upon us
to do the right thing.
And God's power when we can't or don't.
You got it?
Step 11.
We finished 10. I'm sorry I should have made that clear.
I was being a wise guy, I think.
Okay? Now we're done
with our evening part
or our retiring part
of step 11.
Any questions?
See how
simple?
I mean it's just asking yourself
questions, isn't it?
Reviewing
your day. That's all
it is. Reviewing
your day. The one big
question that could be tough is what should
I have done instead?
The other big question
that could be tough is
God
what should I do? What corrective
measures should be taken?
And that calls for some
sitting quietly where God may be.
Okay?
You with me?
Now on awakening, this is step 11
still. This is step 11
still. This is now starting our
day. Alright?
Have you noticed anything at all between
10 and 11?
What our
desire to do in 10
is what we're going to look to see if we did
at 11. Ha!
Ha!
Ha! It's like
let's check up on the Polish guy.
Who's doing the checking?
The Polish guy.
The Polish guy.
And if I don't work these steps,
I, I
do not have the ability to see.
And don't care. On awakening
let us think about the 24 hours ahead.
We consider our plans for the day.
What plans do you have for
today already?
Huh?
Whatever
the corrective
measures are that
he said we should do last night.
We already know
we're going to do that. Yes? No?
Yes!
Taking bagels. I already know
I'm taking bagels.
Here's what it says.
Before we begin
to make plans for the day,
before we begin,
I'm going to ask God to direct
my thinking.
So I'm going to make plans for the day.
I know that I'm going to take them bagels
because that's from yesterday.
But I want my thinking to be divorced
from self-pity, dishonest,
and self-seeking motives.
Sure, God said take them bagels,
but I'm going to take them bagels
so that they like me.
Not because I really called them
a bunch of names the night before.
Ha!
And that's
in here, isn't it?
We ain't even left the house yet.
We ain't even made a plan yet.
What we have done so far
in trying to make our plans
is to ask God to direct me.
See how important thinking is playing in here?
Our thinking is everything.
Divorce my thinking from self-pity,
dishonest, and self-seeking motives.
That's the direction.
Here's an addendum to that.
Under these conditions we can employ our mind.
We can employ our mental faculties
with assurance for after all
God gave us brains to use.
Are you telling me that if you've done these steps
and you're only three weeks sober
you're supposed to think?
What it says
is your thinking going to be a good now
as it will be five years from now?
I don't know.
Maybe, maybe not.
But we're going to do it now, ain't it?
Because it says our thought life
is going to be placed on a much higher plane
when our thinking is clear of wrong motives.
We're asking God to clear our wrong motives
before we even come up with a plan
and we're going to start now
with our own plan.
What if you're planning your day
and you've got to face a little indecision?
I don't know if I should do this.
What should I do then?
I asked Him to give me these motives
but I still got these ideas.
Well, here's what we do.
We may not be able to determine which course to take
so here we ask God for an inspiration.
God, inspire me.
Give me intuitive thought or decision
and then I'm going to sit down and relax
and take it easy.
Maybe drink a cup of tea. I ain't going to struggle.
Just for a while.
You're going to be even more surprised
when you get the wrong answer.
Because it says what used to be a hunch
or occasional inspiration
gradually becomes a working part of my mind.
But being still inexperienced
and have just made the conscious contact
with God is probably not going to be
inspired at all times.
They already know that.
They already know that.
Nevertheless,
we will find that our thinking
as time passes to be more
on the plane of inspiration
we come to rely upon it.
Now,
this is a lot of reading
but it's not a lot of doing.
It's a lot of reading
but it's not a lot of doing.
I don't know what to do about this problem.
Well,
what do you think I should do, God?
That's it.
What we just read, we just did.
That's how simple.
If you haven't done it,
you can't believe it.
If you have done it,
you do believe it.
I'm sorry.
Now,
we're planning our day.
We've asked God to divorce our thinking
from self-pity, dishonest, and self-seeking motives.
If we faced any decision,
faced any indecision,
we ask for an intuitive thought or decision.
And now, it says,
we usually conclude
this period of meditation.
And that means we're going to stop here
and plan our day.
What's my plan for today?
What's your plan for today?
What did you plan for today, Alphonse?
Come here with me.
That's a plan.
Is that a plan?
When I woke up this morning,
I laid out my plan.
I'm going to wash my clothes.
I'm going to go to the dumb guy.
I'm going to try real hard
not to disrespect
or make fun of women.
Oh, yeah.
Oh, yeah, I do.
Sure, that's part of my plan.
I'm going to try real hard
not to disrespect
or make fun of women.
Oh, yeah.
Why do I do that?
Because I know that this is a weakness that I got.
It's something that I do
and I don't want to have.
I'm planning my day.
And what's the other one?
That I might be helpful to them.
That's it.
That's it. That's my plan for today.
I didn't even plan dinner.
I have no idea.
What's the question for today?
What's the question for today?
What are we going to do about dinner?
I don't know.
What's Al's answer?
Let's eat.
What are we going to do about dinner, Al?
Let's eat it.
I love that simple approach.
You follow me?
So now I've made my plan for today.
What is your plan for today?
I don't know.
You've got to make the plan.
But make sure that when you plan for today
you ask God to divorce your thinking
from self-pity, dishonest, and self-seeking motives
and then you're on a better footing
than you've ever been.
Whatever your plan is.
My plan is to stay sober.
Those who say
sobriety is enough
is unthinking.
Hold that.
Here's what it says.
We're going to conclude the period of meditation
with a prayer.
Now here's the prayer.
We've planned our day.
That's called meditation.
Can you add to that prayer?
Can you add to that meditation?
You want to stand on your head.
You want to sit cross-legged.
You know, I really don't care.
We're laying foundation work.
You can do this and anything
but do this.
You can do this and anything but do this.
So when I'm all done planning my day
I say a prayer.
And here is the prayer.
God, show me all through the day
what my next step is to be.
Give me whatever I need to take care of such problems
and please give me especially
freedom from self-will.
That's our prayer.
That's our prayer.
It covers a multitude of sins, doesn't it?
It covers a multitude of sins, doesn't it?
And it's an innovative basis.
Can you add more to that prayer?
You bet.
But this is a basis, this is your foundation stuff.
Is that a fire alarm?
We ask a coffee bell?
Alright.
Put a little cream in mine.
We ask especially for freedom
We ask especially
We ask especially
self-will. Remember that. That's the deal. What's the third step? Third step? I don't want to be
God. I don't want to put my will on nobody. I don't want what I want when I want it. I want God
to give me what he wants, and that's part of my daily prayer, part of my 11 step. Give me freedom
from self-will. I'm going to be very careful to make no requests for myself only. I may ask for
myself, however, if others will be helped. We are careful never to pray for our own selfish ends.
Many of us wasted a lot of time doing that. It doesn't work. We can easily see why.
I don't know if I see why yet or not, but I do know that that's the directions,
is that if I want a car, then I can ask God for a car, as long as the car is going to help take
you to meetings, or help take old folks to hospitals, or help take shut-ins food, but I'm
praying for a car. The prayer is still the same.
The motive and intention is wrong, isn't it? The motive and intention is different. You can
easily see why. Any questions on any of this we've covered so far? If circumstances warrant,
we ask our wiser friends to join us in morning meditation. You know how tough that is? You know
how tough that is to ask your old lady, would you sit down and pray with me, baby cakes? Would you
sit down with me this morning and let's hold hands, or let's read a book, or let's do something? I do
that as often as I can with you. I do that as often as I can with you. I do that as often as I can with
anybody I can. I do it. You bet I do it. You want to know why? Because not only does this book say
so, but because I know that this is what God wants me to do. It just feels right. If we belong to a
religious denomination that requires a definite morning devotion, we attend to that also.
If not members of a religious body, let's do what some of them guys do. Memorize a few set prayers
that emphasize the meaning of the word. Let's do what some of them guys do. Let's do what some of
the principles we have been discussing, what principles, law of service, tolerance, patience,
all of the principles, whatever principles you think you've got inside you. There are many helpful
books also. I got a lot of helpful books. I read a lot of helpful books. Suggest a new need may be
obtained from a rabbi, a priest, a minister. Be quick to see where religious people are right.
Make use of what they offer. Make use of what they offer. If you turn your mind off to the powers of
religion, you are absolutely limiting your spiritual life. You're limiting your spiritual
life. This book says so. This book says so. Not me. As we go through the day, we pause. Now this
is action on our part. The proper use of the will. As we go through our day, we pause when agitated
or doubtful. Does anybody go through the day really after being sober? Do you go through the
day being agitated? Juju, do you ever get agitated or doubtful? Well, then here's what you should do.
You should ask for the right thought or action. That's pretty good, isn't it? I mean, they cover
all the bases that we're going to face in the daily process, don't they? We constantly remind
ourselves. Who is reminding us? We are. We're using the will. We're using the will. We're
using the will. We're using the will. We're using the will. We're using the will. We're using the
brain. We're constantly reminding ourselves that we are no longer running the show. Humbly saying to
ourselves many times each day, thy will be done. Got news for you. That's it. That's 10 and that's
11. Because if we do what we just talked about, we are then in much less danger of excitement,
fear, worry, anger, self-pity, or foolish decisions.
It's easy to be a fool, but it's hard to make foolish decisions when you stop and say,
what should I do here, God? Because if God tells you to throw a brick through his window,
I don't know.
We will become more efficient. We will not tire really easily. We did not directions,
not directions. We're not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to
arrange life to suit ourselves. And the reason I read this is that, is that we have spent so
much of our lives trying to arrange it the way we wanted it. And it's always been a futile and
tiring effort. And it's always been a futile and tiring effort. And it's always been a futile and
tiring effort. And once we stop doing that, we have more energy than before. More energy than
before. Because we're not trying to push the world around. We're alcoholics who are on
discipline, so we let God discipline us. Simple as that. Faith without works is dead. And now we
go into chapter 12. Any questions about what we've read so far? What we've read so far? Any
questions about what we've read so far?
Any questions about what we've read so far? Any questions?
Any questions?
Am I being quoted?
I was at a meeting with an old-timer from California. Before I've ever been to California,
by the way.
By the way.
And the old-timer got up. Conference. A conference. We're at a conference. And the old-timer got up
and said, there are people in AA who say God talks to them. And the whole audience laughed.
And it was a panel, and I was next on the panel, and I got up.
And I said, if God don't talk to me, then the big book's a liar.
And I sat down into my panel.
If God don't talk to you, then what we just read is not true, isn't it?
It's not true.
If God don't talk to you, you missed something.
You've really missed something.
I don't know if He's going to yell to you, if He's going to talk to you through people.
I don't know if He's going to talk to you in meditation, although it says He will give you the answer.
If God don't talk to you, then the big book is a liar.
And we might as well throw it away and do it their way.
The other 1,000 ways of staying sober.
Did you write this or did you?
Any questions?
None at all.
See how easy that is?
Now, I'll admit we covered a lot of bases, but remember this.
Once we do this hard work in 4, this strenuous effort in 5, we have learned a procedure in 7.
We're going to use it for the rest of our lives, but we don't need that pencil and paper anymore, do we?
In effort to see where we're dishonest, we see that it's going to be revealed to us we've learned a procedure.
And it's a very pleasant life after that.
You'll always face these things, and that's why we always look for them.
Step 12.
Working with others.
Working with others.
Okay?
Now, here's step 12.
Let's keep a couple of things, a couple of things, let's make a couple of things clear.
When they wrote step 12, they didn't have 10 days.
When they wrote, didn't they what you call this, 10 days?
Yeah, they didn't have 10 days.
They didn't have sober living.
They didn't have halfway houses.
They didn't have, they didn't have massive amount of meetings.
They didn't have massive amount of detoxes.
Okay?
They didn't have Hazelden.
All right?
You with me?
Okay.
So, when they talk about us serving to others in the first couple of pages or half a chapter,
they're talking about cold calls.
Old ways of approaching drunks, because they had none of these things that were described
just now.
10 days, Hazelden, all that other stuff.
They're talking about us finding a drunk, seeking a drunk, hearing about a drunk, and
then going to them on the cold.
Going to them on the cold.
Okay?
We're going to cover some of that, but keep that in mind, that a lot of that doesn't even
apply anymore.
Okay?
But the essence, the foundation.
Okay?
Okay?
Okay?
Okay?
Okay?
Okay?
Okay?
The foundation of service to others does.
Okay?
The technique is different, is what I'm trying to say.
I'm sober 20, 26 years, 9 months, and 22 days, and I haven't been on a cold call in a decade.
In a decade.
Six years.
I haven't been on a...
All right.
Just checking.
See if you're staying awake.
Okay?
But the principle of helping others remains the same.
So we're going to attempt to build that foundation again, okay?
Like we did in step nine.
There are so many areas of service to others that I strongly suggest that you read the
twelfth step.
I strongly suggest that you apply every method that is there.
I strongly suggest that you apply every method that is there, as it is needed.
Okay?
Am I saying this right?
I feel like I'm not reaching you.
Is that there's too much to cover.
They dedicate a whole chapter.
We could spend the next four hours going over every direction inside this book.
What I'm going to attempt today is to cover the foundation directions.
Okay?
Just what we should do on always.
But the specifics are just like the image.
Okay?
Just what we should do on always.
But the specifics are just like the image.
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What's that?
Just what's in the book, exactly right.
Because we've covered the facts up until this point.
You don't believe that, do you?
They're so convincing.
Do you know that there are 12 steps, 12 traditions, 12 promises, 12 legacies?
But doesn't it seem odd there's only 11 chapters?
You know, I live a half hour from Dr. Bob's house.
I went up to Dr. Bob's house and they're redoing it, construction.
They got the walls ripped down and all of that.
And I'm standing in the bathroom, you know, and I'm thinking to myself,
I'll snatch a piece of this wood.
Because, you know, all the plaster's gone.
You know, just open things, send it to the guys in California, you know what I mean?
And as I reach inside the rafters, as I reach inside the rafters to grab a piece of this wood,
underneath that wood is a rolled up, yellow, brittle piece of paper.
It's the manuscript for the 12th chapter.
I have that for sale today.
I can blow smoke up your ass.
You'd believe me.
Did you buy it, even a little bit?
We got a book now, ain't it?
Let's stay with the facts.
Not to prove them wrong, but to be of better service to God and our fellow man.
All right?
We're not going to get in an argument about who's right and who's wrong.
We're just going to do this.
12th step.
Very important.
Page 89.
Practical experience shows that nothing will so much ensure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics.
You got that?
So that means that if you really want immunity from drinking, work with other alcoholics intensively.
And I got some real news for you.
You don't have to go to 10 meetings a week to help drunks.
If you have a wife and you have kids and you have a job, please commit to those obligations.
We will find out later into the family, or you hopefully will find out later into the family afterwards,
that this is what you're supposed to do.
Okay?
But if you really want to help drunks, what's the best way?
What's the best way?
Miss who really has been paying attention.
Come on.
Just be there.
Take them through the steps.
What?
Take them through the steps.
Well, of course.
Say that out loud.
Take them through the steps.
Yes!
Take them through the steps!
So that's what we're going to do.
Intensive work with other alcoholics.
Okay?
It says this at the bottom of page 89.
Bottom of page 89.
What?
Bottom of page 89.
Ministers and doctors are competent.
You can learn much from them if you wish, but it happens that because of your drinking
experience, you can be uniquely helpful to other alcoholics.
And that means because we are alcoholics, because we have had the experiences of other
alcoholics, we can help them.
Because we love the alcoholics, we can help other alcoholics as doctors and ministers
can.
But let's cooperate and not criticize them.
Let's cooperate with Hazelden and not criticize Hazelden.
Let's cooperate with psychiatry and not criticize psychiatry.
Let's cooperate with any jitter joint puzzle shop or detox that they might have going everywhere,
but let's not criticize them.
Because we can be uniquely useful unless we go to war.
If we go to war, we're just as dangerous.
We're just as damaging as we've always been.
Okay?
When you discover a prospect for Alcoholics Anonymous, I'm sorry, page 90, top of the
page.
When you discover a prospect for Alcoholics Anonymous, where are the chances of us discovering
a prospect for Alcoholics Anonymous today?
In a meeting!
Absolutely!
Where else?
Where else, Ensign?
Right here!
VOA!
Absolutely!
In treatment!
Absolutely!
They didn't have these places then, you understand that?
So they're talking about going to their homes and talking to their families.
They're talking about finding a guy and having a doctor refer you and all these other things.
Whaley goes on a binge!
Really, by the time we find him here in Alcoholics Anonymous at these meetings or in these detox
joints over here, they've been in and out.
Okay?
They've been out 27 times, 5 times, 15 times.
They know more bad information than they know good.
That's why we've got this...
Did I say that?
They know other information than what's inside this book.
I'm sorry.
And it tells you, wait till the family.
Talk with the family.
See if they go on a binge.
Have a doctor refer you.
And all these things are almost inapplicable.
These techniques.
Okay.
Here's what it says.
Page 91.
Third paragraph down.
See your man alone if possible.
You got that?
If you can do that, fine.
If you can't, see your man alone if possible.
At first, engage in general conversation.
Here I am.
I'm with Morgan over here.
Morgan, how you doing?
Everything okay?
Good to see you.
How about them Indians?
How about that tribe?
How about that church?
How about that church?
How about that church?
How about that church?
How about that church?
How about that church?
How about that tribe?
How about the Padres?
How about...
What do I know?
But I'm with Morgan in general conversation.
After a while, turn to talk about drinking.
Now, me and Morgan sitting in a meeting, right?
We know what our purpose is there.
Or we know why we're there.
We know all of these things.
But holding a conversation with a guy is never going to be harmful.
You with me?
If he's not commutative, give him a sketch of your drinking career.
You know, Morgan, when I was drinking, man, I was so alone.
And I was so afraid.
And I was so tired.
That's all we're doing.
You know, Morgan, when I was drinking, man, I was so alone.
And I was so afraid.
And I was so tired.
That's all we're doing.
We can do that everywhere.
That's a foundation deal.
You with that?
We do that all the time, don't we?
We do that all the time.
But this is like a guy's in his house or something.
Has anybody ever made a 12-step call on a rookie?
A guy who's never been in AA before?
One, two, two out of 25.
Two out of 40.
I mean, it's just so rare.
It's just so rare.
But there are certain things that apply.
Certain things that apply.
If you wish to drink, you can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
You can.
If he wishes to talk, let him do so.
Shut up and listen.
I'm here to help you.
Shut up.
What the hell is out of that?
No.
If he wants to talk, let him talk.
If he's in a serious mood, dwell on the troubles of liquor.
If he's in a light mood, tell him a joke.
Get him to talk about himself.
When he sees you know about the drinking game, continue to talk about alcoholic.
Tell him you're baffled.
Tell him your story.
everything you've learned so far, okay?
92, third paragraph down.
This is a big one, and it's a lost art,
and it's something that is really precious.
Continue to speak of alcoholism as an illness,
a fatal malady.
Talk about the condition of the mind and body to accompany it.
If you've read the first four chapters,
you've got great information about what they're saying right here,
so that he knows he's sick,
so that we can convey that message.
I am sick, and you are sick.
We have a sickness and malady.
It's what we have.
Go to 93.
This is very important.
Squiggly writing, that's how important it is.
Tell him exactly what happened to you.
So now here I am talking with Ward.
Morgan's sober a couple of days.
He's in detox.
Maybe he had a meeting.
I don't know.
I don't know.
Maybe he's sober a couple of years.
Maybe he's sober a couple of months.
Hasn't worked any steps.
Has been going to meetings, but hasn't been in AA.
Just a meeting member guy.
I tell him exactly what happened to me.
He doesn't have to agree with my...
Oh, I'm sorry.
Stress the spiritual feature freely.
So I've already discussed that I have a sickness,
an illness, a malady,
maybe even a disease.
But then I distress the spiritual feature freely.
This is on a new guy or any guy.
He doesn't have to agree.
Squiggly writing is what's your concept.
Just so that he has a concept.
The main thing is that he's willing to believe
in a power greater than himself.
And that he lived by spiritual principles.
Go ahead.
Distress the spiritual feature freely.
Yes.
I don't mean by freely.
Freely.
Freely.
What?
What do I have to do?
How did you do that?
I have found a power greater than myself.
I have found this God.
Well, I love this shit.
This is common.
What have I got to do to recover?
Go to meetings.
Where does God fit into that?
What did you do to recover?
I went to a meeting every day
till I got tired of going
and then I went to one more.
Not what we're reading here, is it?
It's not what we're reading here.
We're not even got to the steps yet.
We're talking about our recovery
and our spiritual feature
and our sickness and our illness.
We are stressing that.
In dealing with such a person
is better use everyday language.
That's all I know.
Then they go into religion.
Where they got no fights for religion.
They go into great detail on that.
So read it if you have to.
Go to 94.
This will work with every,
every,
every,
drunk that we're working with.
I'll find the program of action
and explain how you made a self-appraisal.
How you straightened out your past
and why you are endeavoring
to be helpful to the Him.
This is all what you have done.
And if you have done these directions
like we talked about today,
you're armed with ammunition, ain't it?
You don't have to give them some vague answer.
Just shut up and listen
and I'll tell you what to do.
Don't think.
I'll do your thinking for you.
Go to 90 meetings
in 90 days.
Really.
No, it says,
outline this program of action.
You with me on that?
So if I got a new man,
I'm sitting on the side
of this guy's bed over here.
Morgan, you all right?
Everything okay?
Here's how I recover.
I got this book.
I read this book.
I followed these directions.
I found the power of God.
I turned my will and life
over to care of God.
I talked to somebody
about all these defects
I found and formed.
I went out and made amends
and they told me this
and I did that.
You got some action.
You got some foundation.
You got some facts.
This is bottom line stuff.
You can do this with everybody
because you got these things.
You with me?
Suggest how important it is
that he placed the welfare
of other people ahead of his own.
Make him clear
he's under no pressure
to see again
if you don't want me to.
You should not be offended
if he calls it off.
Your candidate,
bottom of 94,
last paragraph,
your candidate may give reason
why he need not
follow the program.
Now this is a common thing
you're going to run into
more often than not.
I do not need to work these steps.
And that is the program.
He may be rebelling
at the thought of a drastic
housekeeper
who requires discussion
with other people.
Do not count.
You got to work these steps.
You got to.
You can't.
You got to.
No, they say don't do that.
Remember what I said.
Everything that we've talked about
so far has been
whose decision?
It's always,
it's always them.
Tell them you once felt
the same way.
Try to convey that message.
But you doubt whether
you'd make much progress
had you not taken action.
Now listen to this.
Bottom of 94.
On your first visit,
tell him about the fellowship
of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Chances are he's been through that.
But if he shows interest,
lend him a copy of this book.
You got that?
So if I'm not going to do that,
we did this.
Remember this is where
we started this meeting?
Remember where we started
this meeting?
I gave Morgan a copy of the book
and said read the first
103 pages.
Remember that?
We're full cycle now, aren't we?
We're full cycle.
We're right back
where we started from.
Here's my directions
as a sponsor.
I have followed these directions
as a sponsor with Morgan.
Now Morgan is making
a 12-step call.
And he's going to give
Alphonse the book.
When Sam Morgan finishes his steps,
he's going to have success
for the rest of the century.
Didn't we stress that?
This is step 3.
This is step 5.
This is step 4.
This is step 7.
This is step 9.
This is step 12.
If you've got that procedure,
you do that daily
in your 10 and 11, don't you?
Yes.
You do that daily
in your 10 and 11.
There's a string on 92.
It says if you're satisfied
that you can be allowed
to call me.
Done.
What if you're not satisfied?
Don't understand this, Morgan.
You have to understand this.
That those days are gone.
They're already in AA.
They've been in AA
dozens of times
before I get them.
Dozens of times before.
Watch this.
Watch this.
Anybody here been in AA
more than once?
Put your hand up.
Look around, Morgan.
Put your hand up, Morgan.
It's done.
It's a done deal.
That's all.
That's all that stuff
that, like I said,
we can't use that anymore
because it doesn't apply.
They've got so many
treatment centers.
They've got so many programs
to convince you
that you are an alcoholic
before they ever get to Big Book.
A judge comes to you
and says,
you've got a drinking problem.
Go to AA and...
get this signed.
And get this signed.
But what do you think
the judge is saying?
Is the judge convinced
he's alcoholic?
You're damn right.
I've only known one guy
when the judge says,
what you gonna be?
90 meetings in 90 days
or 90 days in the joint?
In the workhouse.
Give me the workhouse.
One guy.
One guy.
The apple of my eye.
I envy the guy to this day.
I mean, he's just like
a hero.
Steve McQueen of AA.
No, I don't envy his intelligence.
I don't envy his intelligence.
I'm not talking about that.
But he got him.
He got him.
Give me that jail time.
I can jail well.
Like a chill.
Okay?
Let him a copy of this book.
If the guy don't want to talk,
don't bother talking with him.
Now,
you got to understand something.
I please,
please,
I beg you to please
come to these conclusions
on your own.
Come to the decision
of what part of this 12th step
you can use and can't.
But know that you have to serve others.
Okay?
Please.
If he's not interested
in your solution
and expects to offer as a banker,
financial difficulties,
nurse's sprees,
your question.
You may have to drop him
until he changes his mind.
This he may do
after he gets hurt some more.
Does that answer your question?
Next paragraph.
Next paragraph.
If he is sincere,
sincerely interested
and wants to see you again.
Now, like I said,
this is his home.
We're at his home.
We're at a hospital.
Here we run into him in meetings.
But if I've given him this book
and he's sincerely interested
and wants to see you again,
ask him to read this book
in the interval.
This is where we started
this whole series
of dumb guy stuff.
My job is to give you the book
and say,
read the book.
Morg?
96.
Don't be discouraged
if that guy tells you
to kiss his Reeboks.
Don't be discouraged.
If he doesn't respond at once,
you know what to do?
Find another one.
Keep talking to him.
Try again.
You're sure to find someone
desperate enough to talk to you.
Don't waste your time.
Answer your question.
Don't waste your time
chasing that guy.
Because you're going to waste
a lot of time
that could be helping another one.
96.
Second paragraph.
Here's where we start.
This is where we started
this whole 12-step study, isn't it?
Suppose now you're making
your second visit to a man.
Second visit.
Me and Morg.
We did this, right?
He says what?
That he's read the volume.
He's read the volume.
He knows exactly
what's going to be needed.
He knows exactly
what he's going to have to do.
And he says he's prepared
to go through
with the 12-step program
and recovery.
Whose decision is this?
It's his.
Morgan is now no longer
the guy being sponsored.
Morgan is now the guy
sponsoring Alphonse.
And he's going to do
the same procedure
that he just went through.
He's going to go through
the same 12 steps,
the same big book,
the same directions
over and over again.
Do you think Morgan
is becoming more effective?
Yes.
And has more understanding?
Yes.
Simply by passing it on.
Simply by helping others.
I become more understanding
and more understanding.
Yes.
I become more effective.
Hot dog!
I never knew this.
But I got it now.
Listen to what I just figured out.
If you work this step,
you get closer to God.
No shit.
Great discovery.
It's a wonderful thing
that we're doing.
We stay sober.
They get help.
And I solemnly swear to you,
I swear to you,
if you sponsor
one person,
out of the big book
of Alcoholics Anonymous
like we just did,
and you sponsor
one person
out of the big book,
and you sponsor
one person
out of the big book
by Alcoholics Anonymous,
all of a sudden,
I ain't got 50 people
who got an AA program
out of the big book.
I got 100.
And if they sponsor
just one person
out of the big book
of Alcoholics Anonymous,
I got 150.
Just checking you out.
Just checking you out.
They missed that.
They missed that decade
like hell, didn't they?
Okay?
Watch this.
Watch this.
I am going to let him know.
Morgan is now going to let
Alphonse know
that he is available
if he, A, wishes to make a decision.
What step?
And tell his story.
What step?
But Morgan is not going to
insist upon it.
If he wants to consult
somebody else.
All right?
Basics.
Here's my best part
because I deal with these
halfway house guys
all the time.
He may be broken homeless.
What do you think?
Cover a lot of us?
If I was sponsoring you,
here's what I would do.
Read the next line out loud.
Somebody with a big mouth.
Come on, Tony.
Come on, Tony.
Hold it.
Don't go no further.
Are you saying that alcoholics
are supposed to get a job?
Oh, my God.
That's my job.
I'm supposed to help you get a job.
I might give you a little
financial assistance,
but I ain't going to cheat my family
or my friends and my staff.
And that's a direction
that I will take you into my home
for how long?
A few days.
A few days.
A few days.
I'm supposed to do this here.
And I tell you honestly,
if you come to my house,
if you come to...
And I take them by the hundreds.
I take them by the hundreds.
You come to my house.
I have a 12-step program.
You don't want that program?
Hit the door.
Hit the door.
And if you do want that program,
hit the door.
Because I'm going to keep you
a little while,
feed you, get you well,
and get you a damn job.
I can't look for a job.
They only pay $4.
$4 an hour.
Hit the door.
Hit the door.
There ain't nothing wrong
with $4 an hour.
Just for a few days,
but be sure to use your discretion.
Be certain that he's welcomed
by your family.
Don't let him impose upon you.
Listen to this now.
This is very important
because I believe,
I believe that this,
this is the downfall
of treatment centers
and halfway houses.
I've given you almost no opinions
up until this point.
Be certain that he's welcomed
by your family
and that he is not trying
to impose upon you.
Be certain that he is not trying
to impose upon you
for money,
connections,
shelter.
Does that sound like a halfway house?
Permit this
and I only harm him.
You will be,
I will be making it,
they will be making it
possible for him to be
insincere.
And I may,
they may
be aiding in your destruction
rather than
your recovery.
Now that's heavy duty.
That's heavy duty.
And that's not hard,
that's not easy to do,
but I'm telling you
what this book says,
ain't it?
That's all I've done
so far I hope.
We are never going to avoid
the responsibilities
of helping people get a job,
of giving them money.
We're never going to help
the response,
we're never going to
avoid the responsibility
of giving them
a place to stay
or a chance at life.
But be sure you are doing
the right thing
if you assume them.
Helping others
is the foundation
of our recovery.
Remember,
that a kind act
once in a while
ain't be enough.
You have to act
the good Samaritan
every day
if need be.
You might lose
some sleep,
great interference
with your pleasures,
interruptions
is your home.
It means you may
share your money
in your home,
counseling frantic
wives and relatives,
innumerable trips
to police courts,
sanitariums,
jails,
hospitals,
asylums.
Your phone may jingle
all kinds of day or night.
Your wife may sometimes
say not tonight.
Oh, wait, wait, wait.
Your wife...
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laughter
laughter
laughter
laughter
Your wife may sometimes
say she is neglected.
A drunk may smash
your furniture
and I've had these.
Burn your home
mattress,
I've had these.
You may have to
fight with them
and I used to love
these guys.
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laughter
laughter
laughter
undefeated
laughter
laughter
laughter
undefeated
laughter
laughter
undefeated
in my basement.
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Now,
now I wouldn't
fight with them today.
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This is a long time ago.
I would not hit a man today.
I would not hit a man today.
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laughter
Sometimes you have to call...
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Here's what I will do.
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Another time you may have to send for the police or ambulance.
I've done this recently.
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I'm not going to deal with you.
I have a...
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I will not allow you to do this.
Either cease this or I'm calling the cops.
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And if he doesn't cease this,
and I have to call the cops,
sometimes I have to then call the ambulance.
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laughter
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But know that you are...
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And I don't know where this comes from.
It's some kind of convict thing.
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Man, I can't call the cops.
That's being a snitch.
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Oh, no, no, no, no, no.
I'm trying to save this guy's life and my family too.
Sure, I'm going to call the cops.
It tells you I can do that right here.
Okay?
For the type of alcoholic who is able and willing,
another important line,
to get well,
little charity in the ordinary sense of the word
is needed or wanted.
For the man who cries for money and shelter.
Oh, I hear these all the time.
I can't stay sober.
I ain't got a job.
I ain't got no place to stay.
They're on the wrong track.
Yeah, we go to great streams to provide these things,
and it seems like it's insistent,
but it's not.
Are there any questions?
And I beg you, if you're going to make 12-step calls,
you're going to sponsor people, read the rest of these directions
because there's so many variables, okay?
So many things to do.
But let's go to the last page.
Let's go to the last page.
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whose lives could have been saved
had we not been so stupid.
We would not even do the cause of temperate drinking any good
if we got to be crusaders against alcohol.
We don't very well see that anymore.
Someday we hope that Alcoholics Anonymous
will help the public to a better realization
of the gravity of the alcoholic problem
that has already happened and taken place.
But we shall be of little use
if our attitude is one of bitterness or hostility.
Today, drinkers will not stand for it.
They will not stand for it.
Sorry, I can't go over there.
You guys are drinking.
I'd like to come to your house and visit my God child,
but I know you've got beer in the refrigerator.
And remember what we read earlier,
that promise will react sanely and normally
if we have worked these steps.
Any questions?
Squiggly writing at the bottom of the page.
After all, our problems were of our own making.
Keep that in mind.
Bottles were only as symptoms.
Besides, we have stopped fighting anybody or anything
in order we have to.
Go ahead.
Go ahead.
Oh, no, wait.
Okay.
No, no.
We were talking, we were going about
just the intolerance of drinking to any drinker.
Any drinker.
Not just the 12-step call.
Any drinker.
Any drinker.
Is it saying we should be intolerant of all drinks?
It says that we are not going to.
Let me see if I got this right.
We have stopped fighting anything or anybody.
Our problems were our own making.
The bottle was but a symptom.
We are careful never to show intolerance.
What?
What did she call me?
What did you call me?
I have a pimple?
Any other questions?
Thank you.
God bless you.
Thank you.
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