Sucked All the Nitrous Out of the Whipped Cream at Work and They Blamed the Supplier for Months 🫠 – Stevie B.

About This Speaker Tape

Stevie B. opens with self-deprecating humor about being late to the meeting — a character defect he's been called out on by his mother, his sponsor, his partner, and the meeting organizers. He uses his own tardiness as a live example of Step 7 in action, showing that defects of character keep surfacing no matter how long you've been sober. He shares two stories about famous people he knows in the program who demonstrated real humility — one who sat in a restaurant that had a booth named after them and never mentioned it, and another who joined a meeting from Dubai without making a big deal of it.

The talk shifts into Steps 8 and 9, where Stevie gets specific and personal. He describes his sponsor redirecting his amends list away from the women he'd dated — his sponsor told him the best amends to those women was to never contact them again. He tells a vivid story about working at an ice cream restaurant where he was in charge of the whipped cream supply, and he sucked all the nitrous oxide out of every canister, destroying the restaurant's reputation for months. He had to go back to his fraternity brother who owned the place and confess. He also discusses making financial amends to Gimbels department store, which had gone out of business, by donating the equivalent amount to other organizations.

Stevie shares the story of his sponsee Doug P., who against Stevie's advice chose full disclosure to his wife about infidelity — and it went beautifully. Doug died young from a medical emergency, but left this world with his wife knowing everything and their relationship stronger than ever. Stevie uses this to illustrate that sometimes Higher Power's direction overrides a sponsor's caution.

The talk closes with a passionate section on living amends. Stevie describes keeping his mouth shut when his Brooklyn mother lectures him, listening patiently while his Colombian wife tells elaborate stories before asking him to take out the garbage, and 23 years of deliberate kindness toward his wife's family who stood by him after his relapse. He points to the meeting organizers — 16 years of showing up early, setting up banners and microphones in excellence — as the embodiment of living amends and a changed life.

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• 0:00 Stevie opens with humor about being late, his mother scolding him on the drive over, and the meeting being held up for him
• 3:30 Two stories about famous people demonstrating humility — the restaurant booth story and the friend calling in from Dubai without mentioning it
• 8:00 Connects humility to being comfortable in your own skin and the ongoing work of Steps 6 and 7 — uses his own tardiness as a live defect of character
• 12:00 Parents as examples of long-term recovery — father died with 27 years, mother has 44 years, both still working on themselves
• 14:00 Begins Step 8 — reading from the 12 and 12 on making a list of all persons harmed and the vigorous work required
• 18:00 Amends to women he dated — sponsor told him the best amends was to never contact them again, not to show up with a Big Book
• 22:00 The whipped cream story — huffing nitrous as the ice cream restaurant manager, confessing to his fraternity brother who owned the place
• 27:00 Father's story in Gamblers Anonymous — 27 years of monthly checks to casinos until the debt was forgiven, died free
• 32:00 Story of sponsee Doug P. who chose full disclosure to his wife against sponsor's advice — Higher Power told him to do it and it went beautifully
• 37:00 Living amends — keeping his mouth shut with his Brooklyn mother, listening patiently to his Colombian wife, 23 years of kindness to her family who stood by him