Stevie B. at the Life Is Good Group – 2025

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Life Is Good Group - 2025

A one-eyed man from Long Island with a history of 'degenerate' behavior reflects on the difference between being physically sober and being sober-minded. He describes the mental wreckage of carrying twenty-five years of resentment toward the boy who shot him in the eye and the father who choked him on a car only to find that the Fourth Step revealed his own part in the chaos. He moves from the 'false bravado' of a man who thought he feared nothing to a place of humility admitting to a life of peeping through windows and lying about being a movie actor. He argues that the steps are not mechanical but magical transforming a man who once cursed every sentence into someone who can watch a fit boxing coach talk to his wife without a shred of jealousy proving that a pure heart is the only way to truly be free.

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• 0:00 Stevie B. opens by discussing humility and the rarity of a meeting full of long-term medallions.
• 2:15 Laughter: Stevie discusses the 'bondage of self' and his feeling of unworthiness upon entering the room.
• 5:40 Stevie quotes the book of Ecclesiastes and discusses the 'season' for everything.
• 8:10 Step 3: Recounts the 'jump of faith' taking the third step in a San Francisco hotel room.
• 11:30 Step 4: Discusses the 'vigorous action' required for the inventory, comparing it to a lazy person on a gym stair-stepper.
• 14:20 Detailed experience with Step 4 and 5: The story of Kevin shooting him in the eye and finding his own part.
• 17:45 Step 4: Discusses the resentment toward his father and the 'needling' he did as a teenager.
• 21:10 Laughter: Stevie admits to being a one-eyed peeping Tom in Long Island.
• 24:30 Discusses the 'sexual harms' section of the Fourth Step and his history of lying about being an actor.
• 28:15 The difference between 'sober' and 'sober-minded' and the importance of practicing principles in all affairs.
• 31:00 Laughter: Stevie describes his lack of jealousy toward a boxing coach talking to his wife.
• 33:40 Closing: Stevie discusses Bob's kidney donation and the strength of the fellowship.