Step 4 and the 30 Different Ways to Do It – Bob D.

About This Speaker Tape

Bob D. maps out a stark divide between the 'fellowship of the spirit' and a modern diluted version of AA that he views as a 'treatment-centered' imitation. He warns that the fellowship is losing credibility with judges and the public tracing this decay to a disregard for the Traditions and a loss of 'singleness of purpose.' Bob cuts through the noise of modern recovery arguing that the 'teflon coating' of medication and the distraction of 'hallmark card' platitudes prevent real alcoholics from connecting.

He contrasts the current state of the rooms with the historical wreckage of the Washingtonians warning that when a group stops focusing on the primary purpose of helping another alcoholic it dissolves. He makes his case for a rigorous adherence to the Big Book and the steps as the only way to escape the bondage of self rather than just attending meetings to share relationship problems.

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• 0:00 Bob D. opens by discussing his love for AA and the responsibility to keep it viable for future generations.
• 5:15 Discussion on the 1955 statistics regarding sobriety rates and the definition of 'really trying' the program.
• 12:40 Bob discusses the loss of credibility in the legal system and the 'eye-rolling' of modern judges.
• 18:20 Laughter: Bob mocks the 'hallmark card' depiction of AA in modern television and movies.
• 24:10 The 'Crystals' story: Bob describes a frightening encounter with a non-traditional approach to amends in Santa Fe.
• 32:15 Deep dive into the Washingtonians and the dangers of losing a singleness of purpose.
• 45:30 Bob explains the difference between 'problem drinkers' and 'real alcoholics' regarding the ability to connect.
• 55:10 Discussion on the 'Fellowship of the Spirit' and the specific requirements for membership.
• 1:05:20 Q&A: Bob addresses the issue of antidepressants and the 'Teflon coating' effect on sponsorship.
• 1:18:45 Bob shares the tragic story of Brad, a 'hundred yard dasher' who eventually committed suicide.
• 1:25:10 Bob warns against trying to 'make non-alcoholics into alcoholics' and shares a story about a cocaine addict.