Living Sober and the Peace of Mind That Spills Out – Tom O.

About This Speaker Tape

A log cabin in New Brunswick, a rock-infested farm, and a lifelong hunger for acceptance. Tom O. speaks with the dry wit of a man who has lived as a paradox: a Catholic priest who broke his pledge of sobriety to fit into a "calm circle" of important people. He describes his descent not as a fall, but as a recipe—he had every ingredient for alcoholism except the alcohol itself. Once he added the drink, he was complete.

He paints a gritty picture of the "alcoholic's pledge," a futile promise that lasts only until the next drink, and the desperation of hiding bottles on closet shelves. He recounts the wreckage of his career: the "absent-minded professor" who couldn't find his own classroom and the guilt of preaching sermons while fighting a hangover. For Tom, the only anesthetic for the terror was more liquor, living his life in "acts" where he drew a curtain on yesterday to survive today. He found his way out when he stopped praying for a cure and accepted the hard truth: he was sick.

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• 0:45 Tom O. discusses his childhood in Maine and the influence of Prohibition.
• 5:12 Laughter: Tom tells a joke about the duration of an alcoholic's pledge.
• 10:20 Tom describes the 'comforter' bottle hidden in the closet and the rules of drinking alone.
• 15:45 Tom shares a story about a friend who drank for a brother who died 14 years ago.
• 22:10 Tom discusses the 'patriotic' use of gasoline ration cards to buy whiskey.
• 28:30 Tom describes the chaos of missing classes and the 'absent-minded professor' persona.
• 35:15 Tom discusses the guilt of the priest and the failure of prayer alone to solve alcoholism.
• 42:00 Tom describes his time at Guest House in Michigan and the importance of having nothing to hide.
• 48:10 Step 2 and 3: Tom explains his shift from believing in a Higher Power to believing in that Power's ability to heal his specific sickness.
• 54:20 Step 4 and 5: Tom describes his 120-page inventory and the 'flea-bitten' alcoholic priest he took it to.
• 62:00 Step 11: Tom's advice on finding a remote corner of a shopping center parking lot for meditation.