Contempt Prior to Investigation — Fourteen Months Hearing Step 2 Without Hearing It – Jack D.

About This Speaker Tape

Jack, a plumber and pipe fitter from Pittsburgh, shares his story of growing up with a working mother, an absent biological father married five times, and a grandmother who embarrassed him in front of friends. His painful self-consciousness and inability to fit in defined his childhood. When his mother remarried, his stepfather physically abused him, deepening his sense of alienation. He discovered alcohol as a teenager when he drank sloe gin from the icebox to cope with fear of his stepfather's reaction to a forged report card — and everything that had been wrong inside him suddenly felt fixed.

Jack's drinking followed a blue-collar pattern: drunk on payday Thursday, continuing through Friday and Saturday, then dragged to the zoo on Sunday by his wife wielding a dust mop. He describes the humiliation of standing at the hippopotamus pen, sick from four days of drinking, watching picture-perfect families while his own family fell apart around him. His attempts at self-improvement through reading philosophers like Eric Fromm and Marcus Aurelius only made his plumber buddies think he was losing his mind.

He came into AA in January 1969 but didn't get sober until April 18, 1970 — earning the nickname "Jack the Slipper" at his home group. He initially misunderstood the Second Step as requiring belief in organized religion, until one day he simply realized he believed the program itself could fix him. The members who saved him weren't the old-timers dispensing platitudes but the wild bunch sober six months to a year who threw him in cars and dragged him to meetings.

The emotional center of Jack's talk is his Ninth Step amends to his abusive stepfather in Chicago. He confessed how he'd refused to take the man's name, bad-mouthed him at bars and in AA leads, and failed to acknowledge the work ethic and trade skills the man had given him. His stepfather's unexpected response — "I'm proud of you because I made you what you are today" — dissolved decades of hatred in a single moment. Jack credits that painful, program-mandated action with removing the resentment that would have eventually driven him back to drinking.

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• 0:00 Jack introduces himself as a plumber, gives sobriety date of April 18, 1970
• 3:30 Childhood: working mother, five-times-married father, embarrassing grandmother, crippling self-consciousness
• 7:00 Abusive stepfather enters the picture — physical beatings become routine
• 10:00 First drink: sloe gin from the icebox after forging a report card, everything bad inside him disappears
• 16:00 Blue-collar drinking pattern: payday Thursdays through Saturday, wife's dust mop on Sunday mornings
• 22:00 The zoo story: standing at the hippo pen hungover while perfect families parade by
• 30:00 Self-improvement through philosophy backfires — plumber buddies mock his Socrates quotes
• 36:00 AA arrival January 1969, 15 months of slipping, the Second Step breakthrough on a toilet in a chapel
• 44:00 Young sober members in a car full of contradictions save him — not the old-timers
• 50:00 Ninth Step amends to stepfather in Chicago — decades of hatred dissolved when the old man says he is proud of Jack