The Sex Inventory and Sex Ideal – Day in the Steps Workshop – Part 4 of 5 – Paige K.

All right, we're on the clock. Like we usually are with sex. Now about sex. I was just going to say before we launch into that, that this is a little bit different than what i normally do and with the fears one especially i really liked it i think it's very cool but i wanted to say if it doesn't i don't mean people who did it who go get drunk because they did it slightly differently or did it this way versus that way it's because you didn't do it at all so you know i i love finding new ways of uh of writing stuff different uh you know try stick as close to the book as i can this is a cool interpretation of that as was with resentment so i think this is great uh but yeah if you're like looking at oh that's not how i did it it's like that's fine it's not about any kind of perfection it's just about you know what did you actually do it you make your best effort at it because we're in mortal combat with our egos at this point so yeah now about sex and I am gonna turn it back over to Paige because she's gonna go through sex tonight you know I just like to kind of you know lie there I mean the directions for sex inventory super easy to find page 69 but if you've ever heard the joke about the confused spot see I just feel like I should lead with the confused it's a good one yeah so there's a spot see you know does that thing that that we all do you know oh falls in love and detox you know the the blue of their grippy socks matches the blue of their eyes you know like oh it's meant to be but the sponsee wanting to be a good sponseed goes to their sponsor and says hey I've fallen in lust um I'm willing I'm wanting to have a relationship with the sponsors like okay what I want you to do is I want você to go home have a read of page 69 it'll give you directions and so the confused sponsees goes all right good I'm going to be a good sponsor, I'm going to listen. Page 69, page 69, page, what was it, 96? Page 96. So if we pop over to page 96, it goes on to say, do not be discouraged. If your prospect does not respond at once, search out another alcoholic and try again. You are sure to find someone desperate enough to accept with eagerness what you offer. Which is why I like to be in the book with my sponsees, so they don't get super confused. Yeah, feel free to steal that. God knows I probably did. So as we get into bottom of 68, top of 69, what it's really saying is many of us needed an overhauling there. So if I'm somebody where this area of my life is especially troublesome, what I want to point out is that you are not alone. And the purpose of sex inventory is to develop a sane, sound, God-given sex ideal for our future sex life. We're not here to guilt anyone and shame anyone, and there's a reason why we look at sex. The reason is that thing happens if you're in a line-by-line meeting or what happened here. It's like, now about sex, and it's like... You know? It's awkward. It's uncomfortable. That's where most of our secrets are. That'S where the depth of our shame comes from. And so that, and that's where I have the greatest capacity to harm another human being, so that's why I got a look at it. And one of the things I want to point out, at the end of the first paragraph on 69, we all have sex problems. We'd hardly be human if we didn't. Not alcoholic.