That Resentment Replay Machine in My Head Plays the Same Tape Until Column Four Shuts It Off – Mike L.

About This Speaker Tape

Mike L. leads the second session of an AA beginners class series, walking participants through the mechanics of Step Four — the searching and fearless moral inventory. He opens by reaffirming the Third Step decision made the previous week, then explains that the Big Book instructs alcoholics to begin their personal housecleaning "at once" after Step Three, not months or years later. He compares the moral inventory to a business inventory: a fact-finding, fact-facing process designed to uncover damaged goods so they can be discarded without regret.

The heart of the class is a hands-on, column-by-column walkthrough of the resentment inventory. Mike reads through a checklist of people, institutions, and principles that alcoholics commonly resent — from parents and employers to the institution of marriage and the Ten Commandments — and has participants check off their own. He then demonstrates the four-column process live on a whiteboard using real resentments volunteered by class members Juanita, Steve, and Debbie. Column one names the person; column two identifies the cause with an emphasis on writing the truth; column three checks which of seven areas of self are affected (self-esteem, emotional security, pocketbook, ambitions, personal relationships, sex relations, and pride); and column four asks where the inventory-taker was selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, or frightened.

Mike also covers the fear inventory and the sex conduct inventory, reading the Big Book's instructions for each and pointing participants to guide booklet pages for completing the work during the week. He stresses that fears should be transferred from the fourth column of the resentment inventory and addressed through the prayer on page 68. The conduct inventory expands beyond sex to cover all harms done to others, building the list that will become the Eighth Step amends list. He closes by briefly outlining the Fifth Step — sharing the inventory with a trusted person — and assigns participants to complete all three inventories and their Fifth Step before the next class, when they will take Steps Six and Seven together.

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Timestamps

• 0:00 Opening prayer and review of last week's Third Step decision
• 3:00 Introduction to Step Four as personal housecleaning that must follow Step Three at once
• 6:00 Business inventory analogy from page 64 — fact-finding and fact-facing process
• 9:00 Resentment as the number one offender — reading from pages 64-66
• 13:00 Reading through the checklist of people, institutions, and principles to identify resentments
• 22:00 Live whiteboard demonstration of four-column inventory using Juanita, Steve, and Debbie's resentments
• 35:00 Fourth column deep dive — selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, frightened — with Mike's aunt example
• 42:00 Fear inventory instructions and the prayer on page 68 to remove fear
• 48:00 Sex conduct inventory — four columns covering harms, jealousy, and the sex ideal
• 55:00 Fifth Step overview and Oxford Group guidance-checking practice, closing prayer