Sober for Keeps (5.5 Hours) – Part 3 of 3 – 2017 – Sandy B.

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Sober For Keeps (5.5 hours) - 2017

The sex inventory is not a confession of bedroom habits but a mirror for the ego. Audrey B. dismantles the myth of the 'victim' mentality challenging women to stop counting the wrongs done to them and instead map the wreckage of their own selfishness dishonesty and the 'stage characters' they play to manipulate others. She describes the grueling process of the fourth and fifth steps as a house-cleaning that strips away the masks—the soccer mom the church lady—to reveal the raw often ugly truth beneath. Through the lens of her own failures and the guidance of her sponsor Julie B. Audrey B. argues that true freedom only comes when one stops riding the fence and submits fully to a Higher Power moving from the 'dreaded' fourth step into a state of delight where the world can finally be looked in the eye.

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• 0:00 Audrey B. opens with a hard line on the purpose of the sex inventory: it is not about confession, but causes and conditions.
• 5:12 Discussion on the 'victim' mentality and the 'stage characters' we play in relationships.
• 10:25 Laughter: The 'Santa Claus list' and the role of sponsor Julie B. in correcting relationship ideals.
• 15:40 The 'first sex prayer' and the goal of becoming the partner one wishes to have.
• 22:10 A transparent moment: Audrey B. discusses a relationship with an engaged man and the conviction she felt from her Higher Power.
• 28:45 The 'mask' we wearu2014soccer mom, church ladyu2014and the loneliness of leading a double life.
• 35:10 The 'fifth step promises' and the feeling of being 'delighted' and able to look the world in the eye.
• 42:15 Audrey B. reflects on the death of her father at 18 and how that pain became a tool to help others.
• 48:30 The distinction between forgetting and omitting in the fourth step inventory.
• 55:10 Step 7 as a 'covenant' or contract signing off on the deal with the Higher Power.