Alcoholic Insanity – Berger and Herb K. – Exploring Emotional Sobriety – Workshop – Part 4 of 4 – Allen B.

earlier and make adjustments that are more realistic and learn from them so that we're not repeating this. What's the definition of insanity today? Of course, Dr. Berger. I say doing the same thing over again, expecting different results. And you say it's we expect better results. We don't expect them to be differently. We're not that humble. We think You're going to be better. That's how arrogant we are. I'm not going to wrap my car around the post this time. No, you're going drive it through somebody's front living room. You're gonna do this time around. I mean, it's, it, it so insane in that look, but what you just said when they've done research to say, is there a certain kind of person that becomes an addict? The one thing that stands out is the failure to learn from experience. yeah that's the one thing and we're gonna see that that failure to learn from experience comes from this rigidity we have inside of ourselves that things have to be a certain way for us to be okay and instead of giving that up we perseverate on it we persevered we keep what does that mean persevering separate as we keep trying to do the same thing thinking it is going to be different oh yeah try harder try harder this perseveration no better go to school and get some information we don't do it it's like we we're putting a square peg in the round hole and if it doesn't fit we just get the sledgehammer out get a bigger hammer that's right it said we're clearly using the wrong hammer well bill has a wonderful phrase it's based in sort of old style language but he said rest satisfaction out of life if only we try harder rest w-r-e-s-t which is the root word of wrestle we arm wrestle reality trying to make it fit like you said that's exactly that bill is describing perseveration yeah that's Exactly What perseveration is exactly what it is so it's so powerful um all right let's let's go to the next slide there wasn't a chance of making the outgoing love of saint francis a workable and joyous way of life until these fatal and almost absolute dependencies were cut away because i had over the years undergone a little spiritual change.