Walked into That 7-Eleven Six Foot Eight and Came Out Four Foot Six — the Tenth Step Will Do That to You – Steve B.

About This Speaker Tape

Steve B. shares from Paramount, California in 2001 with 21 years of sobriety dating back to May 1979. He describes himself as someone without a dramatic drunk-a-log — no prison, no wild escapades — just a man dying by seconds and inches in a chair, watching television and crying at game shows. Growing up with an alcoholic mother who loved him but couldn't stop drinking, Steve learned early that you don't tell a drunk giant anything they don't want to hear. He traces his people-pleasing and dishonesty back to childhood survival skills that followed him into adulthood.

The heart of Steve's message is that alcoholics fundamentally do not play well with others. He illustrates this with a brilliant parallel set of twelve steps — the twelve steps of alcoholism versus the twelve steps of recovery — showing that every alcoholic is always working one program or the other. There is no neutral ground. He uses the kindergarten metaphor of grabbing the teacher and demanding all the blankets and cookies, then wondering why nobody likes you, and backs it up with a real first-grade report card that read "Thomas needs to understand this class only needs one teacher."

Steve tells two powerful stories that anchor his message. The first is his blowup at a 7-Eleven clerk named Sam over a cup of coffee, where he waved his Bible around like a weapon before the Tenth Step drove him back to apologize — and a genuine friendship grew from that amend. The second is a parable about a drunk meeting Higher Power on the road, negotiating the price of sobriety, only to discover it costs everything — and then Higher Power gives it all back, but now you hold it in trust. Steve closes by pointing to the magic of AA where one and one equals three, and healing shows up in unexpected places — watching another person's mother give them a cake and feeling joy instead of envy.

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Timestamps

• 0:00 Podcast intro and Steve introduces himself — sober since May 25, 1979, speaking in Paramount CA
• 3:30 Proposes renaming AA to 'Does Not Play Well With Others Anonymous' — the real problem is people, not places or things
• 7:00 Kindergarten metaphor — grabbing the teacher, demanding blankets and cookies, and the real report card that said 'Thomas needs to understand this class only needs one teacher'
• 10:00 Alcohol as a pimp — interrupting every meaningful moment of life with 'get in the car, where's my money'
• 14:00 The twelve steps of alcoholism — a parallel parody program including 'made a paranoid and immoral inventory of anybody but me'
• 20:00 Marie Stenner's teaching — alcoholism drank her up completely, and an empty vessel may be easier for Higher Power to rebuild than someone with pieces left over
• 28:00 AA as the most rigid organization on earth — the woman denied a chip one day early, and the six-hour soda machine debate
• 35:00 Retired sergeant majors in South Carolina — 'Steve, if it's your mother's fault you're drinking, why ain't she waking up sick'
• 42:00 The 7-Eleven Tenth Step story — blowing up at Sam over a cup of coffee, waving his Bible, then coming back to apologize and building a real friendship
• 48:00 Third Step parable — the drunk negotiates with Higher Power over the price of sobriety, gives up everything, and Higher Power gives it all back held in trust