The Difference Between a Decision and a Commitment – Bobby C.

About This Speaker Tape

Bobby C. traces a life defined by a desperate need for acceptance, masking a terrified interior with a facade of toughness. From robbing lockers at a Jesuit high school to a career as a Philadelphia cop—where he describes the force as a 'gang with badges'—Bobby's wreckage includes a history of blackouts, violence, and a profound emotional numbness.

He recounts the absolute bottom of his drinking: running over a child with his car and nearly beating the boy, followed by a failed suicide attempt involving a bathtub and a blow dryer. Bobby dismantles the myth of the 'beer drinker' who can't be an alcoholic, admitting he spent years 'carrying the disease' in the rooms of AA before finally committing to the work. He maps out a grueling path through the steps, moving from a 'liar, thief, and cheat' to a man of dignity, while navigating two bouts of lung cancer with the support of the fellowship.

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• 0:00 Bobby C. introduces himself and mentions his home group in South Philadelphia.
• 5:15 Discusses the need for acceptance and his reputation as 'Crazy Quill' in high school.
• 12:40 Recounts the 'businessman special' Phillies game and jumping the fence.
• 18:20 Describes his career as a cop in Philadelphia and the 'gang with badges' mentality.
• 25:10 The turning point: running over a child and the subsequent failed suicide attempt.
• 32:45 Discusses the 'beer drinker' myth and his initial resistance to the 12 Steps.
• 41:10 Laughter: Bobby's experience with 'John Barleycorn' and his early recovery arrogance.
• 48:30 Detailed experience with Step 9 and making public amends to a man he once humiliated.
• 55:15 Discusses the 11th Tradition and the difference between anonymity and secrecy.
• 1:02:10 Shares his battle with lung cancer and the support he received from the fellowship.